Lingering Ex

There is something strange about my ex. While three weeks ago I was still very much at a point where I would have returned given a hint, I thoroughly feel now that I have moved on. However, in a strange way, my ex seems to linger – and even look for situations which must be strangely unpleasant for him.
I have seen him a lot recently. But not, as you might expect in a situation which is private (like going to a bar and having a drink together), but rather he tends to phone up and ask if he can join me going out or being with friends. This might, of course, include me talking, flirting or in at least one instance kissing another guy right infront of him. Yet, somehow he seems not to mind – or at least will call back soon after and ask if he can come along again.
While very much in the beginning I was really hoping for a sign from him that maybe he would be jealous, I am now over that point and take him very much as just another person being in the same place with me.
Of course, I wonder: it make me a “bad” person flirting right in front of him? Am I playing with his feelings? Or is he so cool and has equally moved on.
Really – what is going on in his head?!

Date. Yes, I mean… a date!

After spending the last few weeks pretty much giving up the hope for anyone nice ever crossing my path,… I have to report: a date. Not exactly a perfect date – but a good start in my books (at least I don’t seem to miraculously scare people off!).

It came in the form of drinks with a French guy, who happens to live around the corner from me, and who asked me to have a drink with him in the local (straight) pub. It was rather nice, very civilised and really a lot like making a new friend. Which, of course is kind of where the problem lies for me: The evening went very much like a meeting with a friend, and then we said good bye and parted. While he is really nice, and we got on extremely well together, I am not sure how we would get on sexually. and I don’t mean that he is in any way unattractive, rather that I seem to have a mental devision between people who are either sexy (and therefore not really friend material), or friends (and whose pants are definitely off limits).

Of course, the jury is still out on this one, but even if never anything else happens, than it was a really nice and enjoyable evening – though I am really almost sure that at least (or should I say most importantly?) I have found a new local friend. And someone to have a drink with. Let’s see what happens…
After an evening like this, I do think, maybe I should just make the plunge more often, go on as many dates as possible – and who knows? – maybe the guy who is both sexy body and mind wise will be out there somewhere.

Photo by William van Dieten.